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A couple of weeks ago I happened to have Shoshanna and Ben in the car with me. They had the following conversation in the backseat:
Shoshanna: Moooooommmmm! Ben’s being annoying.
Ben: I am not!
Shoshanna: You are! You’re pesky! You’re annoying!
Ben: Then why are you always giving me compliments?
Not half an hour later all three of them (Shoshanna, Jordan, and Ben) were upstairs playing in S’s room and Jordan came pelting downstairs to inform Corey and me that Ben was in Shoshanna’s bed and that Shoshanna wanted him to get out. They were resolving the conflict by sticking their feet in each others’ faces.
You may remember how phobic Shoshanna used to be about fireworks. We hadn’t even tried to expose her to them until last year, when we watched the UB fireworks from the pool and she was fine with them then. This year Theo (who is Big Now, since he’s 5) declared that he wanted to be closer to the show, so we planned to go to campus for the main show. So we spent the afternoon at the L’s house hanging by the pool and then headed out for a big ol’ picnic and fireworks.
We played frisbee, Matthew acquired a harem of catch-playing second- and third-grade girls (Jordan, Shoshanna, and Isabella), all the kids were incorporated into a KanJam game with some friendly college students we ate and drank of the vast quantities of food that everyone had brought. As it got dark, Corey passed out glow sticks and the older girls braided glowsticks into the younger girls’ hair.
The kids got sillytired. Shoshanna declared that she was brave. We reminded her that the fireworks would be loud but that they couldn’t hurt her.
We needn’t have worried; she loved them. She wanted to be close to us but she wasn’t scared. Theo, on the other hand, was a little bit freaked out despite being Big Now, but he soldiered on and enjoyed them in the end.
And really, how cute are they?
We’ve been all over the place for the last two weeks. First we were in Maine with the Tenney family plus our friends Sam, Keet, and Maya for a week. We had a lot of fun – the girls played together very well 90% of the time.
Shoshanna said that her favorite thing was playing in the lake. She loved it most when I dug a big hole and they proceeded to fill it with water.
Shoshanna also got to meet two new-to-her Tenney family members: My uncle Martin and relatively distant cousin Betty (by my math she’s Shoshanna’s first cousin twice removed).
After a bit of an adventure in downtown Boston, we were home for about 36 hours before turning around and driving to Delaware where we met Cora and Grandma picked Shoshanna up for the week.
Matthew and I stayed behind to help the new parents out with our utterly charming new niece.
And now we’re back home again. Shoshanna is out of school for the next two weeks and we are going to try not to drive each other too insane.
Some of you may know that I help moderate a mailing list for parents and caregivers of micropreemies. Today Shoshanna and I had the luck to get to meet the founder of that list, Liz McCarthy. Liz had micropreemie twin girls almost exactly a year after I had Shoshanna, and Liz’s girls were due a year to the day after Shoshanna was. They lost Corinne after just a few hours and have had pretty big food- and sensory-related struggles with their surviving twin Kaitlyn. (You can read their whole story on Liz’s blog.)
So Liz and I have known each other online for three and a half years now but had never met in person before this afternoon. We had an awesome playdate at Liz’s in-laws home at the Chautauqua Institution this afternoon – very much worth the 3 hours in the car there and back! The kids (also including Kaitlyn’s cousin Stella) played, ate snacks, mostly listened when we told them to avoid the swamp on the playground, played some more, and ate dinner while the adults chatted about this, that, and everything.
It’s such fun to finally meet people in person who I’ve corresponded with for years, who I feel like I know pretty well even though we’ve only ever seen each other in pictures and maybe talked on the phone a couple of times. Bonus points for them being awesome preemie parents, too!
We went to Oneida Lake with our Flickr friends Keet, Sam, and Maya for the weekend. Both girls had a BLAST, as the pictures show.
Sam’s pictures are of far better quality but what can ya do.
We were some of the first of our college friends to have kids. In fact, the kid population among our college friends is still pretty small. All of Shoshanna’s good-condition, too-small clothes, however, get passed on to Baby Zoe, daughter of our friends Chris and Ann. We’ve been friends with them FOREVER – Ann and Matthew were housemates right after they graduated and she was Matthew’s groomschick (what, what would YOU call the girl in the tux standing up with the groomsmen?); Chris lived upstairs from me and we got to be friends my first year of college and somehow we have never murdered each other (though it’s been a close thing a time or two, I admit). And Zoe spent a good part of her first year looking quite a bit like Shoshanna (y’know, big head, dark hair, blue eyes…).
Shoshanna has recently decided that Zoe is her baby sister, which the moms at least find kind of charming. She talks about going to visit Zoe or Zoe coming to visit us (despite the fact that there are no such plans currently in the works, though we are contemplating Carleton reunion for next summer); she enthusiastically puts too-small clothes in a box for her; she pulled a book off of the shelf the other day and said, “Mama, we need to send this to Baby Zoe”. Zoe is also owed a small pumpkin-shaped container of bubble stuff.
I can’t wait to see what happens when these two girls DO finally meet.
Of course, this love of collage might just be a case of the parent wanting to play with the kid’s toys. :^)
Not necessarily in that order. Shoshanna is recovering from her first tummy bug… probably brought home from daycare (one of the other members of the high chair crew had it last week). She’s feeling much better now than she was over the weekend.
Feeling bad did not, however, prevent her from making a new friend. This past weekend she met our somewhat reclusive friend Morgan. I have never EVER seen Shoshanna take to a stranger that quickly. They started out making silly faces at each other and giggling, and by the end of the afternoon, Morgan was getting big, sloppy Shoshanna kisses. Normally I’m the only one who gets big, sloppy Shoshanna kisses!
Even though we’ve been allowed to take Shoshanna out in public for a while now, we’d been putting off really having her socialize with other kids. Her first encounter with other children was when we went to Mayday a couple of weeks ago. Then, this week, she met four new friends!
On Tuesday, we had a playdate with two-and-a-half-year-old Catharine, and her little sister Emily, who is a month younger than Shoshanna’s adjusted age. Shoshanna and Emily are basically the exact same size, and spent a fair bit of time staring at each other. Shoshanna also decided to assert her identity as the meanest kid on the playground by spitting up in Emily’s car seat and pulling on her ear.
Last night, we had dinner at Keith and Mickey’s house, and Shoshanna met their two kids, Mikayla (also 2 1/2) and Gabriel (11 months). Playground karma asserted itself when, upon our arrival, Gabriel crawled over to us (I had Shoshanna sitting in my lap), pulled himself up on my legs, and stuck his finger in Shoshanna’s eye. Surprisingly, she didn’t really react. She did get lots of petting from both Gabriel and Mikayla and hugs and kisses from Mikayla.
It’s amazing… maybe it is a NICU thing, but Shoshanna is in some ways more content when we’re out and about in lots of hubub (like last night with two other kids screaming, six adults chatting, and the dog barking) than she is at home where it’s relatively quiet (although we do usually have some sort of music/radio/tv on). We’re glad that she’s so happy with being out and about, though – it means that we can pretty much drag her anywhere and everywhere and not worry about it.
Since Shoshanna did so well at Troy & Lisa’s for Seder last week, and since the weather yesterday was truly atrocious, we decided to take her to her first (real) SCA event! We figured that they would almost certainly have moved the event indoors since it had been raining and gross and the field that it’s normally held on would be a veritable mudpit. We were right on the first count; we did not attempt to independently verify the second.
In addition to being the cutest thing going in her blue dress and little white linen cap, Shoshanna had a fantastic time. There were all sorts of new things to see – she was especially fascinated with fencing, which is good since she’ll be growing up watching both of us doing it.. There were all sorts of people to meet who agreed with her that she is, in fact, the most important and interesting thing in the universe (or at least they were willing to pretend that for her sake). She also met the 1-month-son of our friends Jennifer and Michael, and for the first time had her daddy interfere in her social life. (We were comparing their hand sizes when Matthew swooped in, declaring “No holding hands with boys!”) Daddy also helped her attempt to break open Pelgrin the Human Pinata (ok, really he was just looking for an excuse to swing a stick at Pelgrin, but who’s keeping track of things like that?).
Unfortunately, we failed to get a picture of the excessive cuteness… next time!